WTF Lady Gaga…Part 2

As I was reviewing the comments being posted on my first blog about Lady Gaga, I realized that a lot you get very angry, and upset about the fact that I don’t care for her “stage persona”. It shows  me that Lady Gaga has a large and deeply embedded fan base, showing that her “style” reaches out and connects to a lot of people out there, therefore she is a good performer. However, that shows that there may be a lot of weirdos out there, especially to take one little blog so importantly. It’s almost as though I said something rude about their mothers! I mean, it was just a comment, we all gossip about celebrities, but I think some of you are dwelling on it as though it was your own personal best friend. And then you rant on my blog that I’m making a big deal about a celebrity?

I mean, a lot of you can’t handle my opinion about Lady Gaga, and think you need to correct me. But you’re just as bad as I am. Freedom of speech my friends (or in this case writing). This is life, we don’t all have to like the same thing. For those of you who can’t accept this concept, and feel the need to make fun of me, please stay off my blog, it’s just for fun!

A Women Studies Note

I’m studying for a women studies midterm that is focused on the interactions of race, class and gender, and how they intersect to generate further inequality. I’m reading “Doing Difference” by Candace West and Sarah Fenstermaker. It’s funny because there is a section that focuses on white middle-class bias on feminist thought. They go on to explain that some feminist work talks about oppression by women who are not oppressed. While reading this, I was thinking that they speak of colored women as though we are completely marginalized in society. I am a young colored woman, however I never think of myself as an oppressed individual affected by the inter-sectional implications of race, class and gender. Perhaps because I’m a second generation Canadian born female. Perhaps the generations before me have paved the way so that individuals such as myself don’t feel the slap of racism, or the glass ceiling of sexism. Perhaps because “class” is no longer defined by your family, but of what you make of yourself, by making your own opportunities and pursuing what you wish. I study women studies, and find that it does not highlight the changes in society, but focuses on how women were traditionally oppressed. I am definitely a feminist, and will always feel the need for change (especially for those who are not as fortunate), but I greatly appreciate my geographic location for alienating me from such damaging oppression, and would like to thank feminists everywhere, because their work (even if it can be repetitive), has obviously been worth it.

The Spark

 

I was reading a blog on http://kickitwithscott.wordpress.comabout men, relationships, and communication. It actually reminded me of a part of “He’s Just Not That Into You”. Don’t get me wrong, the blog was great, but the communication part sparked up this blog. In the movie, a guy tells the main girl that there is no such thing as the ‘spark’. That guys’ just made that up to make girls think that there was a reason to like them. And the girl, as gullible as she may be, believed it. Now I don’t know if guys believe that they made up the spark, or if they’re looking for that certain spark with a woman, but from my perspective, the spark is definitely true.

 

And this is how kickitwithscott helped me out. The spark is communication. It’s about personality, behavior, and communication skills. If a guy is a nice, happy, funny guy, he can usually portray pretty good behavioral skills by generally being polite, and good communication skills through jokes, laughter, and light hearted conversation. I’m sure many women relate to the theory of the spark. If a guy has a great smile, than that’s always favorable, but anything can make a girl forget that smile (like if he’d rather slap your ass than hold your hand). But if a guy has a great smile, and a sweet comment to follow than he’s probably worth sitting through the whole date (instead of texting your insurance policy…in my case my best friend calls me and says there’s an emergency- otherwise known as the mercy call). So thank you kickitwithscott, you’re right, communication is key, and to me, it’s key because I can see a guy’s personality to see if we click well together. If a guy doesn’t communicate, I’m outta there!

 

 

 

 

The Rejection

So have you ever had a few drinks, gone to a club and met a guy? Or maybe bumped into someone that you used to kind of date, but deemed them unworthy, and cut off? But perhaps on this night you had one too many, or went clubbing to meet someone on that particular night, and that’s the only person around? Well we’ve all been there at least once. So here’s how the night goes, you’ve had a few drinks and you’re in a good mood. You bump into that someone (or meet someone new), you catch up (or introduce yourselves), and while the liquor keeps pouring, you’re having the most fabulous night of your life, you think he’s incredible, and don’t understand why your girlfriends don’t think so too.

You have both danced the night away, and he was always attentive enough to get you that next drink. You exchange numbers, and look forward to the first flirtatious phone call that’s about to happen. The next day, you wake up with the worst hangover of your life, and replay the previous night through your head. Sure, you may be hungover, but at least you met a great guy. Your girlfriend calls you to run through a recap as well. She’s already uploaded the pics from last night, and is emailing them over. You’re excited to see that she capture pics of you and your new flame, and can’t wait to see the details of his face while you’re opening the attachments. As the picture loads, your smile fades. Now you understand why your girlfriends weren’t excited for you. Oh man, he’s ugly, and very badly dressed. Where did he get off acting like such a smooth talker last night? He looks like a loser.

Just as you’re telling yourself it’s ok, you don’t have to see him again, your phone rings. Shit, you gave him your phone number instead of taking his. Don’t answer, don’t answer. Man this guy just won’t hang up. He’s probably waiting for the machine. Ok it stopped ringing. Oh man he’s calling again. WTF?

You see, this is where men get a little desperate. Now even if it’s a guy who’s not ugly, and I thought was pretty attractive, I usually hate meeting completely random strangers, and tend to not answer the phone the next day, or ever again. I can’t stand the dating process. In “He’s Just not that Into You”, they showed a young girl being persistent, and wanting to stalk guys, but men do the same thing. I still have guys calling my phone from  a year ago. If the girl never answered the first time, or she did, said she’d call you back and didn’t, SHE”S NOT INTERESTED. I mean, Hitch was kind of right, a lot of us girls are always looking, but the difference between women and men, is that we know what we’re looking for. Most of us know exactly what kind of man that we want, and if you’re not it, we’re not answering.

So please, for you men out there, if she hasn’t answered the phone within the first week, she doesn’t want to talk to you. Don’t keep texting her once a day just to say hello, I mean she never responded in the first place to your phone call. She obviously doesn’t want to say hello. There’s no need to call, she has your phone number, and no she’s not just being shy. If a girl wanted to talk to you, she would when you call. Most of the time, when we really want a guy, we sit around, carry our phones everywhere, and wait for that call. Other than that, you’re being ignored my friend. This means you Shawn. Sorry. Good luck to the rest of you, hopefully you won’t meet weirdos like Shawn, Michael, or Shan.

Who’s hotter Megan Fox or Angelina Jolie??

Now, I honestly look at Megan Fox and see the next Angelina. I hail Angelina to be one of the most beautiful women of our time (next in line to  Aishwarya Rai of course), but let’s face it, she’s beginning to age. I love her attitude, her movies, and her style, but I think even she is beginning to accept that her time is over.

I think that pic was a flattering image of Angelina Jolie aging. It’s funny because everyone acts like Angelina Jolie doesn’t care what the public thinks about her, yet when the skinny phase started, she rapidly lost weight. She’s always had a very sexy, filling figure which is now just skinny, making her look frail. I think Angelina isn’t going to age well if she keeps losing weight. Now Megan Fox on the other hand is skinny, but she still looks healthy (unlike Lindsay Lohan). She just looks like a girl that has a small frame (although I’m sure she’s starving on the inside). Well whatever it is she’s doing, she’s definitely the next Jolie, now she just has to get more roles in movies!

Lady Gaga…love game…here we go again!

Still beggin for it!

OK, so like I said before I like Lady Gaga’s music, it always sounds funky to me. It has a great beat to dance to, or listen to in your car when you’re driving. But honestly, his disco stick? WTF? If that’s what you kids are calling it these days. Seriously, I mean, it’s like she’s been dying to tell the world how horny she is, and now that she’s getting famous, she can’t stop! I know it’s hard to understand the lyrics (besides the chorus) because sometimes she sounds like a f***** up robot, but it gets pretty bad, “I’m educated in sex, yes, and now i want it bad, want it bad”. I mean who the hell feels the need to tell the world that she’s educated in sex. Or was that just another way to let everyone know that she’s a whore and down for everything. But I thought once you get famous, it’s easy to get laid no matter how much of a “butterface” (but her face) you are! Maybe she just thought that no one knew she was easy yet. By the way, did you guys see the end of this music video? Maybe she’s going for that whole empowerment thing like Madonna, but something is missing. Like the fact that she may have a penis under her pants. Anyways, keep letting out the retarded songs, because I really do like the beat! You can find the lyrics below to laugh like I did. Cheers!

Let’s have some fun, this beat is sick
I wanna take a ride on your disco stick
Let’s have some fun, this beat is sick
I wanna take a ride on your disco stick

I wanna kiss you
But if i do then i might miss you, babe
It’s complicated and stupid
Got my ass squeezed by sexy cupid
Guess he wants to play, wants to play
I love game, i love game

Hold me and love me
Just want touch you for a minute
Baby three seconds is in it for my heart to quit it

Let’s have some fun, this beat is sick
I wanna take a ride on your disco stick
Don’t think too much, just bust that thick
I wanna take a ride on your disco stick

Let’s play a love game, play a love game
Do you want love, or you want fame
Or you win the game
Through the love game
Let’s play a love game, play a love game
Do you want love, or you want fame
Or you win the game
Through the love game

I’m on a mission and it involves some heavy touching, yeah
You’ve indicated your interest, i’m educated in sex, yes
And now i want it bad, want it bad
I love game, i love game

Hold me and love me
Just want touch you for a minute
Baby three seconds is in it for my heart to quit it

Let’s have some fun, this beat is sick
I wanna take a ride on your disco stick
Don’t think too much, just bust that thick
I wanna take a ride on your disco stick

Let’s play a love game, play a love game
Do you want love, or you want fame
Or you win the game
Through the love game
Let’s play a love game, play a love game
Do you want love, or you want fame
Or you win the game
Through the love game

I can see you staring there from across the block
With a smile on your mouth and your hand on your c (huh!)
The story of us, it always starts the same
A boy and a girl and a (huh!) and a game

Let’s play a love game, play a love game
Do you want love, or you want fame
Or you win the game
Through the love game
Let’s play a love game, play a love game
Do you want love, or you want fame
Or you win the game
Through the love game

Let’s play a love game, play a love game
Do you want love, or you want fame
Or you win the game
Through the love game
Let’s play a love game, play a love game
Do you want love, or you want fame
Or you win the game
Through the love game

Selling Sex

What do you think of when you hear about selling sex? Prostitution? Celebrities? Women, men or both? As a young female, I feel that women are used more to sell sex as opposed to men. To broaden this topic lets just say you can see the trade of sex on three spectrums. There is the Western concept of sex, exploitation for popularity, lesser is better (clothing wise), and of course, put sex everywhere because that’s all people are really interested in (not the best concept). Then you have the Eastern side of the spectrum, cover it up, it’s as secretive as the black market (everyone knows about it but act as if they don’t), yet the exploitation of females is common and considered normal (practical?). Lastly, you have the combination of the two, such as mail-order brides (women exploiting themselves to the Western world to gain entrance into it), pornography industry which definitely combines the two, and the well known concept of sex trafficking.

Now in the Western world, selling sex is done almost as easily as it’s said. It’s freely available online to people of all ages, therefore making it a societal norm. When the youth of today grow up, indecent exposure might be considered normal, or even necessary to warrant fame. Sex is used to sell all types of products, it’s in the bud of many jokes, it’s all over television, movies (the general pop culture data base). Why does sex sell so easily? Because the formalities of society has been constantly lowered. Sex went from a liberating concept, to that of indecent exposure over the course of a few decades. Do we want sex to be as easily accessible as it is today? I guess this question may be more difficult for a parent to answer rather than me. The vulgarity and somewhat offensive nature that sexual content produces objectifies women quite severely in the Western world. However, whose choice is it to stop it? I mean, playboy bunnies such as Holly Madison, Kendra Wilkinson, etc feel completely comfortable and liberated going on TV, strutting around naked, and having men gawk at them. They know they’re objects of lust to those men, and they embrace it. I have no problem with that. In fact, I have a little bit of respect for them because they’re proud of themselves inside out (even though the outer parts may be fake). But this does not mean that I want to be viewed in the same context by men. So I them problem that is proposed is the border. Do people know when they’ve crossed the line when it comes to sex?

In the East (I have not been so this may not be completely accurate), I feel that sex isn’t as mainstream as it is in North America. It’s as though cultural restraints have still kept their nations from being fully exploited. Do nation that consist of largely religious populated areas have less risk of this exposure become of their common shared morals? Is North America in faster decay because of its diverse, ever so modern and changing persona? Well not quite, the East is definitely catching up in the exploitation isle. Sex trafficking generates a good part of funds going into these growing economies, but obviously enough is greatly supported by the people of North America. Women are forced into prostitution, brothels, and are commonly sold between pimps and gangs to generate funds from tourists. Thailand and Cambodia hold high reputations for child sex trafficking, and the tourists flock for their piece.

This leads me to ask one more question. When sex is made main stream is it safer? Although sex trafficking, brothels, child pornography, etc all exist in North America, it seems to exist on a much smaller scale than that of the East. Is this because human rights are so greatly honored, or can some of the contribution be because sex is mainstream, therefore the right and wrongs of sex are also acknowledged? Is the selling of sex much more dangerous where it is being ignored? I suppose so.

 

Jessica Alba aka the Dumbass

We all love Jessica Alba. She’s cute, sweet and has a rockin body. Yes many of us women completely envy her, but we were wrong ladies, she’s not as great as she seems. Apparently Alba has earned quite the reputation as a typical Hollywood b****. Not only is she rude, but lil miss goody bimbo shoes has proved that she’s an idiot. Did anyone catch the TMZ clip of Alba questioning a reporter during Obama’s inauguration? OMG, this woman looked so dumb. I didn’t get to see the full clip, but what I caught was good enough. She was asking the reporter why he wasn’t happy or something about Obama being in office, and arguing that the reporter should be neutral about the situation…oh that’s right, neutral like Sweden! Oh Jessica, when will you learn that you’re the hottie in movies, no one cares what you say, and that is exactly why. No worries everyone, I found the link that further confirms that Jessica Alba is an idiot…ENJOY!

Thankfully Sweden was neutral at one point in history...60yrs ago

http://www.tmz.com/2009/01/21/jessica-alba-the-ditz-on-switzerland/

WTF Lady Gaga??!!?

Now I don’t mean to sound like someone who is hating on my generation or anything, and don’t get me wrong, I like Lady Gaga’s music, but honestly, she’s totally weird! I mean, in our day and age anything meaningless or confusing is praised by young society. Why? I just don’t get it. I mean I like Lady Gaga’s music because it has a good beat. But really, I only understood her first song about just dancing in a party. The way I interpreted it was that I drank too much and now I have to dance a whole lot to sweat it out and sober up. I don’t know what else she was singing about. I mean she was humping a children’s pool toy in the bloody kiddie pool in her music video?!? I don’t understand why girls think they have to look like trash of some form to get noticed. Her music is pretty funky, that’s all she needs to put out there. And really, why is she always dressed like a space robot? What’s even more funny, is that she’s completely outrageous and slutty in her music videos, but when someone interviews her shes quiet and somewhat shy. Stop trying to act like you’re a reserved young lady when you’re selling sex to get big! This jig is up buddy, everyone knows you’re a whore! But honestly, I do like her songs, the rhythm, all that crap, but just because people like you, you don’t have to start acting like a douche to keep their attention. Who can relate to the horrid way she dresses, and her weird cover your face dance moves along with the in your face sex!? Lady Gaga, you’re going to confuse your fans too much and make yourself a 3 hit wonder (aka Sisqo)! Sorry to report the bad news hun!

The Crush

I’m taking it that a lot of you can relate to this. That special someone. Even if he doesn’t know it yet. It could be the hot guy on the 8th floor in your building, that dude that you always see at the copy machine in the office, or one of the guys that is a common friend to your best buds. And here we go with the crush. The crush is a horrible state to be in. Mostly because it has to be kept a secret. We build up all these flustering feelings and at the most, gossip about it to our girlfriends. I mean what’s the big deal. We know the only validation to those feelings would come from speaking to that special someone. Why do we feel all bottled up and scared to let someone know that we’re interested in them. I mean it has to be a compliment to them. I guess it’s the thought of being emotionally vulnerable. But have you ever noticed that when you have a crush on someone, it runs strong for a little while, you convince yourself that you’re in love and that this is meant to be, and when you don’t receive any response from the opposite sex (most likely because they have no clue that you like them), you slowly creep away, and give up. You may feel a little bummed out for a few days (especially if you see him with another chick), but eventually you find yourself a new crush and get all flared up again! But that’s where the question lies. If we can deal with the self-rejection that we create (by not telling them that we’re interested), why are we so scared to tell that someone that we like them. I mean, we’ve already set ourselves up for some form of rejection. Is it such a big deal if it comes out of his mouth? I don’t think so. And remember everyone, you have nooooo clue what that person is thinking. They could be thinking the same thing you are…therefore they too, are most likely setting themselves up for rejection. So go for it, tell them, don’t be scared (unless you’re already in a relationship). Who knows, the two of you may be very happy together someday!

Women’s Weight

Has anyone ever noticed, that when we were growing up, we may have viewed certain female icons and images to be very skinny, or underweight. But now, as an adult, I find that I look at these icons or images, and think…man they’re so lucky. Their figures look great, and then we’re all pushed to lose weight and stay trim. This sucks! What’s wrong with not being a stick? I mean there’s no meat to poke at, and all those celebrities that are ultra thin have to have their clothes custom made just so that they look “normal”. If there was a “normal” anymore, it’s certainly not them. For all of you that are super dieting instead of enjoying a good ol fashioned burger, get help, eat something, it’s ok, we won’t hate you.