The Spark

 

I was reading a blog on http://kickitwithscott.wordpress.comabout men, relationships, and communication. It actually reminded me of a part of “He’s Just Not That Into You”. Don’t get me wrong, the blog was great, but the communication part sparked up this blog. In the movie, a guy tells the main girl that there is no such thing as the ‘spark’. That guys’ just made that up to make girls think that there was a reason to like them. And the girl, as gullible as she may be, believed it. Now I don’t know if guys believe that they made up the spark, or if they’re looking for that certain spark with a woman, but from my perspective, the spark is definitely true.

 

And this is how kickitwithscott helped me out. The spark is communication. It’s about personality, behavior, and communication skills. If a guy is a nice, happy, funny guy, he can usually portray pretty good behavioral skills by generally being polite, and good communication skills through jokes, laughter, and light hearted conversation. I’m sure many women relate to the theory of the spark. If a guy has a great smile, than that’s always favorable, but anything can make a girl forget that smile (like if he’d rather slap your ass than hold your hand). But if a guy has a great smile, and a sweet comment to follow than he’s probably worth sitting through the whole date (instead of texting your insurance policy…in my case my best friend calls me and says there’s an emergency- otherwise known as the mercy call). So thank you kickitwithscott, you’re right, communication is key, and to me, it’s key because I can see a guy’s personality to see if we click well together. If a guy doesn’t communicate, I’m outta there!

 

 

 

 

The Crush

I’m taking it that a lot of you can relate to this. That special someone. Even if he doesn’t know it yet. It could be the hot guy on the 8th floor in your building, that dude that you always see at the copy machine in the office, or one of the guys that is a common friend to your best buds. And here we go with the crush. The crush is a horrible state to be in. Mostly because it has to be kept a secret. We build up all these flustering feelings and at the most, gossip about it to our girlfriends. I mean what’s the big deal. We know the only validation to those feelings would come from speaking to that special someone. Why do we feel all bottled up and scared to let someone know that we’re interested in them. I mean it has to be a compliment to them. I guess it’s the thought of being emotionally vulnerable. But have you ever noticed that when you have a crush on someone, it runs strong for a little while, you convince yourself that you’re in love and that this is meant to be, and when you don’t receive any response from the opposite sex (most likely because they have no clue that you like them), you slowly creep away, and give up. You may feel a little bummed out for a few days (especially if you see him with another chick), but eventually you find yourself a new crush and get all flared up again! But that’s where the question lies. If we can deal with the self-rejection that we create (by not telling them that we’re interested), why are we so scared to tell that someone that we like them. I mean, we’ve already set ourselves up for some form of rejection. Is it such a big deal if it comes out of his mouth? I don’t think so. And remember everyone, you have nooooo clue what that person is thinking. They could be thinking the same thing you are…therefore they too, are most likely setting themselves up for rejection. So go for it, tell them, don’t be scared (unless you’re already in a relationship). Who knows, the two of you may be very happy together someday!